The One Thing You Should Always Do Before Guests Arrive, According to Pros

Whether you’re inviting guests to stay the night or for dinner, hosting loved ones is one of the most rewarding endeavors. At the same time, it comes with a bit of that palpable nervous energy, often driven by a desire to ensure everyone feels welcome and has a great time. 

Delicious food, a tidy space, and an inviting ambiance all play a role—but what’s the number one, non-negotiable thing you should do before guests come over? For the answer, we spoke to several hosting, entertaining, and etiquette pros.   

The Most Essential To-Do Before Guests Arrive 

According to all five of the experts we asked, setting the right ambiance—especially right near the entryway—is going to make the most impact. It makes sense when you think about it; this is your guests’ first impression. And extra bonus points if you’re there to greet them at the door with a warm smile and "come on in!" 

"The single most important thing you can do before guests arrive is set the tone of the party with ambiance," says Olivia Pollock, etiquette and hosting expert for Evite. "The 'big three' of ambiance are lighting, music, and scent. These are some really small ways to make your space feel instantly put together and inviting, signaling to guests that it’s time to have some fun."

Professional event planner Penny Haas agrees. She also recommends having your home ready about 30 minutes before guest arrival so you, too, have some time to relax. “This means the lights dimmed, clutter away, décor set, doors open, any music on, and you are dressed,” Haas says. “The food may still be finishing up, but having an inviting space that looks ready to the guest eye and welcoming your guests as they arrive will set the tone and will look like you are prepared for the party.” 

Emily Reno, founder of The Vegas Planners, notes that there are few things less awkward than having guests walk in and not know where to go or who to talk to. “Being calm, put-together, and fully present sets the tone right away, and it makes guests feel welcome and immediately puts them at ease,” she says.  

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Other Hosting To-Dos That Make a Big Impact 

If you do have more time to prepare, our experts suggest adding these high-impact items to your hosting to-do list. 

• Tidy Congregating Spaces: A close second to ambiance, Reno says, is making sure your home feels tidy and intentional. “Little details go a long way in helping guests feel like you prepared for them.” If you have a house cleaner, consider scheduling them the morning of or day before.  
• Tend to the Bathroom: Even a quick wipe down of all surfaces can make a huge difference here. “Give the sink a quick wipe, the toilet a quick scrub, and wipe down and put away any miscellaneous items, and of course throw away anything that needs tossing,” advises Genevieve Dreizen, modern-day etiquette expert and COO of Fresh Starts Registry.
• Have Thoughtful Seating: From the living room to the dining table, seating matters. “It sounds simple and may not be the first thing that comes to mind,” says Tamara Czartoryski, etiquette expert and founder of L'Agence Eventive. She says this really drives emotional connection and the feeling of belonging.
• Offer a Drink: After warmly greeting your guests, Pollack says that a natural segue is to offer them something to drink. Provide a few options or consider having a “signature drink” that sets the tone of the party.