Everything You Need to Know to Pull Off a Memorable Friendsgiving Feast

Thanksgiving is one of the most anticipated times of year for gathering with our loved ones. And while family often comes first, it’s still a prime opportunity to connect with our dearest friends. Friendsgiving allows space to toast to the past, present, and future with those bonded to us by years of companionship—the ones who always have our back and know exactly what to say to make us laugh or feel seen. 

Given how special these people are in our lives, it only makes sense to put on an intentional celebration. From Friendsgiving hosting tips offered by professional planners to dishes that’ll delight, we’ve put together the ultimate guide to hosting your own Friendsgiving celebration. And if you’re attending instead? We’ve got some etiquette tips for you, too.

What Is Friendsgiving?

Friendsgiving is very similar to a traditional Thanksgiving, only you gather with your dearest friends for a feast instead of with family. It’s an additional opportunity to celebrate the season and to spend time with those you treasure most. 

"Friendsgiving has this wonderful magic; it's like Thanksgiving's fun younger sibling, where you can ditch the formality and just celebrate your chosen family,” says Alex Cahanap, a seasoned event planner and founder of Citrine Tablescapes. “It’s the one holiday where there are no hard rules, so you can mix traditions, experiment with dishes, and drink a glass of bubbles without waiting for dessert. It’s perfect for adding a little spontaneity to your holiday lineup." 

In that sense, Friendsgiving is a 'choose your own adventure' where friends can bring their favorite dishes, stories, and traditions. The beauty of Friendsgiving lies in the joy of togetherness, where everyone contributes not just food but also a piece of their heart, making the occasion feel extra special and full of warmth.

Tips for the Ultimate Friendsgiving

Hosting Friendsgiving is similar to serving any meal to a crowd, though there are a few extra touches you can add to help the event feel more special. 

Make it a Potluck With a Theme

If you’re really feeling moved to create an entire meal for your friends then have at it—but the spirit of the holiday is really centered in collaboration. Coming up with a theme provides direction and makes the event more fun. Cameron Forbes, a professional event planner and founder of Forbes Functions, says, “Whether you decide on having guests bring their favorite childhood dish or something farm-to-table, it allows everyone to contribute and share a piece of themselves,” Forbes explains. 

Create a Cozy, Inviting Atmosphere

Create a cozy, inviting atmosphere by incorporating soft lighting, comfortable seating, and a beautiful tablescape. “The right dinnerware sets the mood for the night,” Cahanap says. “Choose pieces that feel warm and inviting, making your guests want to stay for hours.” 

Forbes says to start with your linens, plates, cutlery, and glassware, then add décor and design details like napkin rings, candles, votives, florals, and printed materials. You can simplify your life by using a rental service or using what you have on hand already. 

Come Up With a Signature Drink 

A signature drink is genius because it creates a memorable moment and streamlines your shopping list. “For beverages, welcoming guests with a fun signature drink sets the tone for the evening,” Forbes says. “You can also create a self-serve cocktail or mocktail station, allowing people to mix their own drinks with seasonal flavors like apple cider, cinnamon, and bourbon. It’s interactive and ensures no one is waiting on you to play bartender.” 

Prepare as Much as You Can in Advance 

Host stress can really dampen the mood, so try to prepare as much as you can ahead of time. “If you’re not going the potluck route, make dishes that can be prepped the night before and set your table or décor a day in advance,” Forbes suggests. “That way, you can relax and enjoy the day with your friends instead of spending it frantically cooking or decorating.” Small things like preparing batch cocktails and curating a playlist in advance will take a lot of stress off your plate on the big day. 

Create a Comfortable Space for Mingling

Help your friends feel cozy by creating a comfortable space for gathering before and after the meal. This might look like an outdoor area with plenty of seating—maybe even some games—or an inside space with candles flickering and music playing. Having a cozy, communal area where people can gather is key in creating a sense of togetherness, which is really what Friendsgiving is all about.

Friendsgiving Food Ideas

As is the case with any Thanksgiving meal, food is the centerpiece holding everything together. Aim for a selection of friendsgiving appetizers, a main star, and some savory side dishes. The right desserts and cocktails will round out your feast. 

Appetizers 

Get mouths watering with these delicious friendsgiving appetizers, which are as easy to prepare as they are enjoyable to eat. 

Ham and Spinach Dip

This savory hot dip packs a ton of flavor with ham, spinach, and Manchego cheese. Prep the night before and then heat in the oven before serving.

Pull Apart Garlic Bread

This scrumptious garlic bread has a crispy, golden-brown crust and is soft and airy on the inside. It's infused with aromatic herbs and is easy to pull apart versus cutting for easier enjoyment.

Warm Olives With Cracked Coriander

Not only is this one of the easiest Friendsgiving appetizers you can serve, but it's sure to be a hit. Elevate store-bought olives by infusing them with coriander in this 15-minute recipe.

Mains and Sides 

For the main dish, you’ve got plenty of options ranging from a traditional turkey to something a bit more unexpected. 

Perfect Roast Turkey: Cheesecloth Method

Go for a classic turkey for Friendsgiving. This recipe uses Martha's famous cheesecloth method where the cloth is soaked in butter and wine to create a moist, flavor-rich roast.

 Vinegar-Braised Pork Shoulder Chops

Simple and wallet friendly, these vinegar-braised short ribs give "main dish" energy. Vinegar works overtime to tenderize and add flavor.

Acorn Squash With Mixed-Grain Stuffing

Not only is this seasonal side dish beautiful to look at, it's packed with delicious flavor and healthy ingredients including wheatberries, mushrooms, and golden raisins.

Asparagus-and-Potato Gratin

Au gratin potatoes are always a hit, and this recipe adds a twist with fresh asparagus, prosciutto slices, and chive blossoms.

Desserts

It’s not a proper Friendsgiving with a delicious sweet something to close out the meal. These desserts are sure to please. 

Pecan Pie

It doesn't get much more classic than a pecan pie for Friendsgiving. This recipe also includes a just-sweet-enough whipped cream to serve on the side.

Blackberry Buckle

For an old-fashioned dessert, whip up this tasty and bright blackberry buckle. Serve with a side of vanilla bean ice cream and you've got the perfect dessert.

The Parton Sisters' Fresh Orange Cake

Dolly Parton and her sister, Rachel, included this recipe in their cookbook, Good Lookin' Cookin'. It's a proper stacked cake with bright and zesty flavor.

Friendsgiving Cocktails 

Cocktails help put everyone in the spirit. Whether your guests prefer to go zero-proof or imbibe, we’ve rounded up some of our favorite Friendsgiving drinks for everyone. 

Brandy Alexander

Consider the Brandy Alexander the cocktail equivalent of a cozy sweater. Dating back to the early 20th century, it's made with Kahlua, brandy, and cream, and a light dusting of grated nutmeg.

Cinnamon Sour Cocktail

Put an autumnal twist on a classic whiskey sour with this cinnamon version.

Negroni Sbagliato

A pitcher-style cocktail serves itself, simplifying Friendsgiving for the hostess. This Negroni uses a festive prosecco instead of gin along with campari, vermouth, lemon juice, and club soda. Orange and rosemary garnishes lend to the spirit.

Friendsgiving Decorations 

While food and good company are the heroes of any Friendsgiving, setting the mood with some choice decorations can go a long way. Even the tiniest details show attention to detail, help foster lasting memories, and can help your guests feel special. 

Add Personalized Touches

It’s all about those small, intentional details. “A name card or a quick handwritten note at each place instantly turns the table into something more than just a place to eat,” Cahanap says. “It’s a subtle way of saying, ‘I’m really glad you're here,’ without overthinking it. 

Employ Soft Lighting 

Nobody wants to congregate under harsh lighting. (Every great restaurant with impeccable ambiance is proof of that.) Soft lighting via bistro lights, candles, or low-light lamps are the way to go

“Lighting is essential for creating the right mood,” Forbes says. “I recommend soft, glowing light, whether it's string lights overhead or clusters of votives, taper candles, and pillar candles on the table. It adds a warm, magical atmosphere that instantly makes the space feel more festive.” 

Add a Surprising Twist 

Cahanap’s big tip for Friendsgiving decor is to throw in one funky piece that’ll get conversation rolling. “Fun candlesticks, a patterned charger plate, or even ribbons tied around your glassware stems—it doesn’t have to be complicated, just something a little quirky that breaks the ice and makes the table feel alive,” she says.

Create Seasonal Centerpieces 

Invite touches of the Earth into your Friendsgiving gathering through season-inspired centerpieces. Forbes says, “I love using seasonal elements like dried flowers, colorful leaves, and even local produce and gourds. They bring the essence of fall indoors and tie the whole look together, giving your table an effortlessly elegant yet grounded feel.”

Layer Textiles for Cozy Vibes 

Layering different textures on the table can help create contrast and dimension. Table runners, placemats, and napkins are all opportunities to infuse some depth and warmth to your décor. Use cozy textiles such as linen, burlap, or flannel in shades of burgundy, burnt orange, or mustard to evoke the fall season and create a homey, comfortable atmosphere. 

What to Bring to Friendsgiving

Are you attending friendsgiving instead of throwing the shindig yourself? It’s considered polite to bring something, whether it’s a gift for the host or a dish to share. Here are some ideas to get you started. 

• Host gift: Forbes says, “Bringing a thoughtful host gift is a great way to show your appreciation. Homemade gifts, like a DIY floral arrangement or baked goods, are inexpensive and always a hit.” Check out our favorite hostess gifts. 
• Tasty side dish: A side dish or homemade dessert is always a classic move. Double check with the host to see if there are any gaps they need to fill. 
• Bottle of wine: A bottle of wine or a specialty cocktail ingredient can also elevate the gathering.
• Spirit of participation:  "The best guests show up not just with something in hand, but with a spirit of participation,” Cahanap says. 
• Thank you note: “A handwritten note is the perfect way to express your gratitude for all their hard work,” Forbes says. 

Friendsgiving is all about flexibility and fun, so keep stress at bay and lean into the spirit of the season. “The real magic is in the time spent together,” Forbes reminds us. “As a host, focus more on curating an experience that feels genuine and joyful rather than one that’s picture-perfect for Instagram.” These gatherings are a reflection of gratitude and friendship, so enjoy the moment and let the rest fall into place.